Sunday, December 29, 2013


  1. Alienation - The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual's relationships with others.
  2. Avoidance - The practice of withdrawing from relationships with other people as a defensive measure to reduce the risk of rejection, accountability, criticism or exposure.
  3. Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing - This kind of speech is a passive-aggressive approach to giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonableness or friendliness.
  4. Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.
  5. Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.
  6. Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a "worst case scenario" and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.
  7. Chaos Manufacture - Unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.
  8. Cheating - Committing crimes of perjury to sell a persons child
  9. Chronic Broken Promises - Repeatedly making and then breaking commitments and promises is a common trait among people who suffer from personality disorders.
  10. Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no resolution. SALLY SCHROER IS THE WORST SHE DOES THIS EXCESSIVELY 
  11. Confirmation Bias - The tendency to pay more attention to things which reinforce your beliefs than to things which contradict them.
  12. Dissociation- Dissociation is a psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.
  13. Domestic Theft - Consuming or taking control of a resource or asset belonging to (or shared with) a family member, partner or spouse without first obtaining their approval.
  14. Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG).
  15. Emotional Blackmail - A system of threats and punishments used in an attempt to control someone’s behaviors
  16. False Accusations - Patterns of unwarranted or exaggerated criticism directed towards someone else.
  17. Favoritism and Scapegoating - Systematically giving a dysfunctional amount of preferential positive or negative treatment to one individual among a family group of peers.
  18. Frivolous Litigation - The use of unmerited legal proceedings to hurt, harass or gain an economic advantage over an individual or organization.
  19. Gaslighting - The practice of brainwashing or convincing a mentally healthy individual that they are going insane or that their understanding of reality is mistaken or false. The term “Gaslighting” is based on the 1944 MGM movie “Gaslight”.
  20. Grooming - Grooming is the predatory act of maneuvering another individual into a position that makes them more isolated, dependent, likely to trust, and more vulnerable to abusive behavior.
  21. Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.
  22. High and Low-Functioning - A High-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is able to conceal their dysfunctional behavior in certain public settings and maintain a positive public or professional profile while exposing their negative traits to family members behind closed doors. A Low-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is unable to conceal their dysfunctional behavior from public view or maintain a positive public or professional profile.
  23. Impulsiveness - The tendency to act or speak based on current feelings rather than logical reasoning.
  24. Intimidation - Any form of veiled, hidden, indirect or non-verbal threat.
  25. Invalidation - The creation or promotion of an environment which encourages an individual to believe that their thoughts, beliefs, values or physical presence are inferior, flawed, problematic or worthless.
  26. Lack of Conscience - Individuals who suffer from Personality Disorders are often preoccupied with their own agendas, sometimes to the exclusion of the needs and concerns of others. This is sometimes interpreted by others as a lack of moral conscience.
  27. Lack of Object Constancy - An inability to remember that people or objects are consistent, trustworthy and reliable, especially when they are out of your immediate field of vision.
  28. Manipulation - The practice of steering an individual into a desired behavior for the purpose of achieving a hidden personal goal.
  29. Masking - Covering up one's own natural outward appearance, mannerisms and speech in dramatic and inconsistent ways depending on the situation.
  30. Name-Calling - Use of profane, derogatory or dehumanizing terminology to describe another individual or group.
  31. Narcissism - A set of behaviors characterized by a pattern of grandiosity, self-centered focus, need for admiration, self-serving attitude and a lack of empathy or consideration for others.
  32. Neglect - A passive form of abuse in which the physical or emotional needs of a dependent are disregarded or ignored by the person responsible for them.
  33. Normalizing - Normalizing is a tactic used to desensitize an individual to abusive, coercive or inappropriate behaviors. In essence, normalizing is the manipulation of another human being to get them to agree to, or accept something that is in conflict with the law, social norms or their own basic code of behavior.
  34. "Not My Fault" Syndrome - The practice of avoiding personal responsibility for one's own words and actions.
  35. No-Win Scenarios - When you are manipulated into choosing between two bad options
  36. Objectification - The practice of treating a person or a group of people like an object.
  37. Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior - An inflexible adherence to arbitrary rules and systems, or an illogical adherence to cleanliness and orderly structure.
  38. Passive-Aggressive Behavior - The expression of negative feelings, resentment, and aggression in an unassertive, passive way (for example, through procrastination and stubbornness).
  39. Pathological Lying - Persistent deception by an individual to serve their own interests and needs with little or no regard to the needs and concerns of others. A pathological liar is a person who habitually lies to serve their own needs.
  40. Physical Abuse - Any form of voluntary behavior by one individual which inflicts pain, disease or discomfort on another, or deprives them of necessary health, nutrition and comfort.
  41. Projection - The act of attributing one's own feelings or traits to another person and imagining or believing that the other person has those same feelings or traits.
  42. Proxy Recruitment - A way of controlling or abusing another person by manipulating other people into unwittingly backing you up, speaking for you or "doing your dirty work" for you.
  43. Push-Pull - A chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without appropriate cause or reason.
  44. Raging, Violence and Impulsive Aggression - Explosive verbal, physical or emotional elevations of a dispute that are disproportionate to the situation at hand.
  45. Scapegoating - Singling out an individual or group for unmerited negative treatment or blame.
  46. Selective Memory and Selective Amnesia - The use of memory, or a lack of memory, which is selective to the point of reinforcing a bias, belief or desired outcome.
  47. Selective Competence - The practice of demonstrating different levels of intelligence or ability depending on the situation or environment.
  48. Self-Aggrandizement - A pattern of pompous behavior, boasting, narcissism or competitiveness designed to create an appearance of superiority.
  49. Sense of Entitlement - An unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.
  50. Shaming - The difference between blaming and shaming is that in blaming someone tells you that you did something bad, in shaming someone tells you that you are something bad.
  51. Silent Treatment - A passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse in which displeasure, disapproval and contempt is exhibited through nonverbal gestures while maintaining verbal silence.
  52. Situational Ethics - A philosophy which promotes the idea that, when dealing with a crisis, the end justifies the means and that a rigid interpretation of rules and laws can be set aside if a greater good or lesser evil is served by doing so.
  53. Splitting - The practice of regarding people and situations as either completely "good" or completely "bad".
  54. Stalking - Any pervasive and unwelcome pattern of pursuing contact with another individual.
  55. Stunted Emotional Growth - Reluctance or inability to learn from mistakes, work on self-improvement or develop more effective coping strategies.
  56. Targeted Humor, Mocking and Sarcasm - Targeted Humor is any sustained pattern of joking, sarcasm or mockery which is designed to reduce another individual's reputation in their own eyes or in the eyes of others.
  57. Testing - Repeatedly forcing another individual to demonstrate or prove their love or commitment to a relationship.
  58. Thought Policing - A process of interrogation or attempt to control another individual's thoughts or feelings.
  59. Threats - Inappropriate, intentional warnings of destructive actions or consequences.
  60. Triangulation - Gaining an advantage over perceived rivals by manipulating them into conflicts with each other.
  61. Triggering -Small, insignificant or minor actions, statements or events that produce a dramatic or inappropriate response.
  62. Tunnel Vision - A tendency to focus on a single concern, while neglecting or ignoring other important priorities.
  63. Verbal Abuse - Any kind of repeated pattern of inappropriate, derogatory or threatening speech directed at one individual by another.